Honoring Your Druthers Cara Lumen

A "druther" is nothing more that "I' druther do that, I' druther do this." We need to honor our druthers.

Druthers come from deep inside. They are our intuition, our inner wisdom guiding and directing us. Sometimes they are soft and come almost in a whisper while other times they practically yell at us. Do you honor your druthers? Or are you easily swayed by what other people want, seem to need, or even ask for?

I'd druther stay home than be in a group of people. But how do I keep from being alone. In my case, I write a lot: sometimes expressing thoughts like this one, sometimes a new awareness that comes through the support of a friend, sometimes when my mind makes a new connection of ideas or the use of an idea. I honor my druthers by allowing myself to stay home in my comfortable and cozy sweats rather than move out into a social environment in which I find myself less than comfortable.

Sometimes druthers keep us from doing things that might be good for us. For instance, it would probably be a good idea for me to join an organization or a cause that gave me the opportunity to go out. I need to balance that.

What druthers do you have? Who is talking you out of them? Why are you not doing them?

A professional woman I know has moved from being at the top of her business into being a mother of two while watching her husband take over the business and make it very successful. She'd druther have the satisfaction and accolades that came to her in the business position, but she will never capture that in exactly the same way again. She must make peace with her druther. She must change her druther to I'druther be spending these vital start up years with my children. By changing her druther she can once again find value in what she is doing.

Bloom where you are planted. We planted ourselves where we are today. We planted ourselves though our thoughts, our intentions and our choices. That doesn't mean we are stuck, not at all, it means that this is what we drew to us and it will stay until we change our druthers. I'druther be more flexible and lighter in my body becomes a rallying point for choices like adding a few blocks to my walk, or snacking on carrots instead of crackers. I'druther be working for myself than someone else invites us to begin to gather the training and resources to start our own business. I'druther not travel very far from home for my work helps us look for our speaking gigs within a 30 mile radius of our home.

Honor your druthers. See what part of them you are willing to act on. See what part you want and which part you don't really need. Your druthers are a sign pointing the way to happiness.

Cara Lumen, MA, Your Idea Optimizer helps you turn your ideas into steady profit. As a business developer, content developer and educator, Cara helps you make money from what you already know. You can learn more about how to put your wisdom to work through her radio show www.blogtalkradio.com/passioantelyonpurpose and her Passionately On Purpose emagazine at www.caralumen.com